ENNUI
I suffer from self-imposed ennui. Most people would accept a full life as indication of a life well lead but I sit listless wanting something that I don’t have the power to obtain - contentment. Tuesday I was getting a tank of $3.89 regular gas and the person behind the counter seemed content. She had decorated her booth with family photos and one of those small plastic fans labeled “Mabel.” My assumption was that Mabel had been at this location a very long time because as I was leaving she gave a hearty “Hey Baby” to a young guy bouncing in with hip hop grace. A polite thank you and I returned to my truck. Sitting there with the key in the ignition, I was overwhelmed with irritation for Mabel. Her high and mighty labeled fan and her convenient store memorabilia seemed oddly permanent for a convenience store clerk. I asked myself why I was so irritated with Mabel. She was nice, polite, efficient and important somehow. She provided a ray of sunshine in a drab location. I should be happy that Mabel works at the BP MiniMart. The problem was, I wasn’t happy for Mabel’s existence. With all honesty, I started feeling disgust. She had a achieved something that all of my education, training and reading had failed to produce - contentment. Not to be too condescending, but I assumed Mabel was not college educated. That might be a horrible assumption but for argument sake lets assume that she worked there in high school then graduated and had worked at “her” store ever since. She might have worked at that mini-mart location for 30 years without a watch or token acknowledgment. She probably survived more uniform changes and corporate “buyouts” to the point she catches herself telling a teenager getting money out of the ATM machine on a slow Friday night, ”hey baby, I remember when BP replaced the Citgo people’s slushy machine with that ATM bank be careful about those fees.” Mabel is the convenient store historian, a glassed in chronicler of the military industrial demise of a once mighty and profitable convenience story economy. After my irritation subsides, I recognize something else that I envy about Mabel, her noblility and simplicity. These qualities are stark contrasts to my legal wrangling on the daily sinking ship called the American legal system. Before I leave the gas pump, I take a quick look around and notice a sea of contentment. A mother and child, a group of city workers parked next to two male and two female teenagers with black sunglasses looking very content. My reaction is the same. That is a selfish and immature reaction isn’t it? If I was a good person my first reaction might be calm envy but irritation reflects a character flaw. But the verdict is in, if good people are content then I am not a good person. A burning desire sets aflame that assures me that I am not going to ever get a fan and label it. I declare that I can’t become content with anything in my life or the future that I perceive in front of me so I better not get too comfortable with my surroundings. I am pulling out of the parking lot determined to never come back to that BP MiniMart forever avoiding Mabel’s haunting contentment. I hit the gas pedal trying to push the ennui through the floor and out of my life.
AH

Uncertain... on 08 Jul 2008 at 1:17 pm #
I have no idea what ENNUI is.. I googled it and got a bunch of names of people.. Anyway, I know EXACTLY what you mean.. I am close to the same way.. I look at people with money and wonder.. are they really happy? cause i wish i had that money.. Then i see a normal family, they dont have money per say, but they have everything they ever wanted and are perfectly content.. Do I want money? or to be content? Been struggling with that for a while now..
Cris on 08 Jul 2008 at 1:27 pm #
In life its seems much easier to depend on someone else be it a parent, store owner, significant other… It seems to me that when people depend on you (you wont or cant be content) but the people that are dependant seem to be content.
Joshua Blum on 08 Jul 2008 at 2:24 pm #
“A heart at peace gives life to the body,
but envy rots the bones. - Prov 14:30″
I read this early this morning for my morning devotional. It was given as a reference to a point made about Ahab who was king over Isreal 2 generations after the reign of Solomon. The first point was that “Envy Rots the Bones” after looking at how Ahab had coveted the vineyard of Naboth and in the end killed him for it, which the only reason he had to take the vineyard was because it was “close to his palace.” I quickly glazed over the point as I was reviewing my notes this morning as i thought to myself “I’m not an envious person” and looking onto the next point of the sermon from Sunday. Something in me stopped however and I thought “let me quickly review this and see if there is something hidden I do not see.”
As I reflected and read through the story I came to this passage and recognized the key was having a “heart of peace” which I am constantly working to have. I would not characterize myself as a “man of peace” for it always seems that I am wrestling with God over one thing or another in my life. I came to my wife asking her if she would characterize me as a man at peace. She actually surprised me by saying that I handle myself with peace through hard strenuous situations but at the same token am not at peace with my present life (i.e contentment), being a man always on the move and looking for the next thing to conquer.
For years I have strained with the word “contentment” and how to apply it to my life. I look at my wife, my many blessings in life and ask myself why I am not content with what God has blessed me with?
I think that is why Paul says it’s a “secret of contentment”. Let’s help each other to figure out the secret, good post and thanks for the reflection, it’s encouraging to know we are both looking for the same thing!
wilcox on 08 Jul 2008 at 6:22 pm #
al, i continually find that my lack of contentment in life springs from my conscious or subconscious pursuit of a counterfeit, i.e. something that only temporarily, falsely, or wholly inadequately validates my existence or purpose as a person. i’m ok when i’m willing to let those things assuage my fears or meet my immediate need, but when i wake up and realize how broken those counterfeits are, i easily head into my own tailspin. the issue for me is a) recognizing the voice of god in the midst of all the other messages and then b) actually believing what he says is true. great post and a much longer conversation, of course.
grit on 08 Jul 2008 at 6:36 pm #
i also want to know what in the world is ‘ennui’. is it a real word?
Chris on 08 Jul 2008 at 7:35 pm #
Well Al,
Thanks for the transparency and the identification with me (I think). I like the threads that follow too. I have found thanksgiving helps settle the heart and put it at peace. Being thankful sometimes alludes us who are driven. Think I’ll put up some old worthless memorabilia on my desk and read Ecclesiastes.
kevin on 09 Jul 2008 at 1:22 pm #
My friend, I seem to have a similar ennui. I am always looking for more. Not necessarily in material wealth, but more in general. In my journey this year, I have found my foundation of sin that is persistent: search for significance.
So, when my heart breaks for others, it usually is another reason.